How to raise a child healthy and calm, to stay with the most happy and not much roll up? All those who have children, I think, are well aware that this is not so simple. Educating young children – this is a difficult, but interesting process.
I remember when my daughter was still small, I finally found time for herself and pulled away from the house with her friends. I complained to them that I have no rights, only responsibilities. I have to remove all, I have to cook, I have to obstirat, I have to put, I have to undress, dress, throw, push, wipe, etc.
How to Raise a Confident and Happy Child?
– Well, do not worry, there is an joke. Tired of the child? Only the first 65 years of hard, then get used to. Aahahhaha.
Dear Mom, do not worry. This period is very fast. After three years of a child every day is becoming more independent, and to the five years I was almost free. Now I will tell you how to relieve yourself these first five years, to be not just a mom and a happy mother.
Forget about the perfect order. A young child makes a mess around. This is normal, so do not be worried about a little mess. As soon as the child gets older, you will once again be perfectly clean, and the nerves are intact. I went to his girlfriend, who has a small son, too. She calmly cleaned in the closet. No shouting in the house, no one hangs on it. Son sits on a rug in a corner and tearing a newspaper, inducing chaos.
– Hey, look what he has done for you?
– Yes, I deliberately gave him a newspaper. He likes them to tear, thus I win 30 minutes for their cases.
What does it mean for the tortured mother 30 minutes? Yes, it’s an eternity! Yes, it’s just a gift! Of course, now my daughter will tear a newspaper, I immediately agreed.
My daughter is in the period from 0 to 1.5 years I just do not get off. Even in the toilet, I went with her in his arms. Give her a newspaper, I did not dare, because it is not simply tearing the paper, and took in his mouth. So I bought the cheapest pack of writing paper and gave it to tear. She izryvala it into small pieces with such pleasure that completely forgot about me. It turned out that this activity is very good for fine motor. The child vomits paper develops the handle, and you are free, you can quickly cook a meal, or a little rest.
Gradually, a newspaper (paper) tired. But if you follow the child, you will find other interesting activities.
Then my daughter began to wonder splash in the water. To do something urgent in the kitchen, I took a rubber mat, seated in her corner of the kitchen, poured it into a bowl of warm water, gave toys, and she handles boltyhala there, slop water. In general, the need was busy time for me. Then I just had to quickly remove everything and wipe the floor.
When her daughter was 1.8 years old, we went to visit my sister. Daughter painted leather chair, polished table and scratched console. My sister was angry as ever. The children she had and the upbringing of young children she had completely different views, to put it mildly, far from reality. She was adamant that her children would play with toys in a corner and would not spoil things – it is a delusion of all new mothers.They think that beautiful toys are needed for children and the children are not able to break away from them. Forget about it until 4 years. Before that age (maybe even later) children interested in all what play Mom and Dad. Our daughter split the 3 phones (even though she had several beautiful toy phone), as long as we were not smart enough to put the machine on the floor so that she could at any time to talk on the phone.
All that takes a mom or dad immediately necessary for the child. Children’s dishes lying around, but my mother is such an interesting pan. – Place the child next to him at the table and give this pot and a spoon.Let cook until you cook. I also gave a large (who can not stick to the ear and nose), pasta, beans and gave her water. It prevented them in a pan – cooked. Of course, the daughter of “spoiled” products, but it is a small fee for your peace.
Move away from the child’s eyes those things, which is more expensive . What can break, scratch, break. The rest let it be toys for him. Remote control, phone, dishes – all the child interested.
After 2 years, when the child is already becoming a little independent, use different facilities for children. For example, in large stores there are special corners where the teacher will see your child to take his game. And you can relax and do some shopping. In our town there is also a children’s centers, where a couple of hours you will free the teacher.
Walk on the playgrounds, playing with each other, children are also being diverted from their parents, it’s a great holiday for you. In addition, if the site has a mother, that you trust, it can trace the child, and you go to the store. At our yard was such a mother with her daughter, the same age as ours. We took turns staying with children. For convenience, these walks can use lightweight strollers pushchairs canes .
What other nuances you need to know about raising small children, it is the fact that young children are not able to concentrate. For example, you say, “Put on your socks” – and continue to do their business. As soon as you turn away, the child immediately forgets what you asked for.
One day I said 5 times, the result remained the same. At first I thought it was a riot. What did she deliberately did not want to wear socks. But the daughter of my obedient, and I realized that the reason is different. The fact that she could not concentrate.
To achieve a result, I began to do so, take the socks itself, come to her, the flow and say, “Put on your socks.” She puts them right in front of me – and the issue has been resolved.
Help your child gradually with the development of the child and the concentration will be. And then it will be enough words .
Somehow I came to my girlfriend, who has two children, pogodok. Senior – son, younger than my daughter for a year. A friend told me that when he first went to parents, she saw her children from the side. At first I could not understand this, because until I was her daughter from the saw. I always had the feeling that she was hanging on me and is a part of me. At the same time the most difficult part.
Then we went to visit my aunt, there was my cousin. And the daughter had forgotten about me completely, slept with my aunt, went everywhere with her aunt. I was free, and thus able to observe the child as if from afar. Very informative, it is not the same feeling when the child fully with us.
With momentum growing child starts to move away from the mother, suddenly he realizes that the world is big, and it all interesting. There are periods of a kind of crisis, when the child is totally refuses to listen to anything. Nothing can be done. You just have to wait out this period. It will take quite permanently. We started this after 1.5 years of age (or a little earlier). The daughter began to flee. On the street it is frustrated and rushed away from me. I had to run after her, that she not jumped on the road. It is very tiring. No words, no amount of persuasion do not work. Just went outside, everything is rushed. Recommendations such as “Hide yourself and the child is scared,” my daughter had no effect. I hid behind a tree and look after her. Daughter turns – me nowhere. It is as if nothing had happened quietly carried on. No – do not.
And when we were in Moscow airport, she was 1 year and 10 months. Just seeing these spaces, she started to run away from me. I have 2 suitcases and bags, chasing her hard. I catch her, screaming at her. She laughs, tears – and forward. I have some ideas? Suddenly someone will steal it, or it will be lost, because still can not even talk. Fear literally start to go crazy, I think mum will understand me. In the end, finally ozverev, I grab her by the neck, succumbed on the ass, and drag to the passport control. She screams, breaks. Auntie behind the counter looking at the passport control the entire show makes very specific conclusions. After checking all of my documents, she took her daughter by the hand and calmly asked:
– Girl, where’s your mother?
Daughter pointing at me.
– Clearly, it’s still my mother.
The reaction of this woman made me think about how I simplify the task itself and move this time quietly? Do not scare the others, and especially of the child?
Here are the methods that helped me to overcome this period:
1. The stores have special carts, I seated her daughter in the truck and calmly shopped. So it was interesting, and jump in any way.
2. At the railway station and the airport also has a trolley. I folded them suitcases, daughter seated on top and ride it until it came time to take a train or a plane. In the next article I will write about travel with a small child. My daughter is 5 months a year traveling with me, and I have accumulated some experience.
3. At home we began to walk in the courtyard, where there are no cars and can be quite easy to get away from his mother and go back to it. It is much farther from home, but where I could relax and sit on the bench. Gradually, this period has passed, I have even forgotten what it was.
And in conclusion I would like to highlight the issue of little children’s theater performances and all sorts of social events. Children get tired. Depending on age, lack of patient 20 to 40 minutes maximum. Therefore, driving the baby to play, get ready to leave after 20 minutes of home. The child gets tired, starts to jump, spin, presenting it no longer occupies. Do not spoil the nerves themselves or the child or the neighbors. Go away. Up to 5 years old, we went to all views on a little bit. My daughter immediately began to want “in the toilet, drink, hard to sit or uninteresting.” Either way it was necessary to force the mother to leave.
Only 6 years she was able to watch the circus and not get tired. And 7 I’m sending her alone to watch a cartoon at the cinema, she waiting for her at the entrance.
Do everything to make you well. Use every opportunity to facilitate their work and parental education during early childhood. Then you will be pleased, and even you would never blame a child for causing you trouble. The mother of the child is not a servant, a child and does not want his mother was a slave. Our children need a happy and rested mom! So ask yourself the question of how to raise a child and not get tired, and the answer will surely come.