How to tell if a man really loves you or not? How does a truly loving man behave?
The first sign that a man loves a really – it’s respect for women, the desire to help, to make her life easier, make a woman happy, and so on.
It is necessary to understand that a man in love will not be constantly rude to his woman (there may be exceptions in mutual conflicts, but this is really rare and there are still rudeness borders), trying to humiliate her with jokes or else somehow, will not be constantly late and forget that important and necessary for your beloved.
A man who behaves rudely in life and working with other men, behaves very differently with his beloved. If not, and he is just as rude, it is unlikely that he is in love and appreciates a woman for real.
(Rudeness is an active behavior.If he did not buy something, did not guess about something you wanted, etc., it could be due to forgetfulness or lack of understanding of female psychology)
Conversely, a truly in love man will try to help his woman.
The exception here is only at the very beginning of a relationship, when he is rude, receives a woman’s response in response and realizes that a woman with self-respect is ok, falls in love more.
Therefore, respect for you and your interests is a pretty good sign that a man in you is truly in love. Of course, it needs to be used together with the rest of the signs, since he can simply be polite with almost all women.
The second sign of true love is the activity and initiative of the man.
If a man is active in a relationship with you, then this is a good sign of falling in love. Depending on the stage of dating, a man can look for a woman, seek a meeting, organize meetings, seek sex, seek the attention of a woman, her admiration, etc. (of course, in the case when he sees that a woman somehow reacts to his actions, as I wrote about in other articles and books).
So, the man himself writes to you, he invites himself somewhere, he comes to you, tries to help around the house, organizes something, etc.
This is not only about the stage of dating, but when you meet this is most clearly seen.
So, a really in love man is active. Activity can manifest itself in a completely different way depending on the nature of the man, his skills, confidence, etc. But it must be manifested. And we are talking about his independent activity. That is not so that the girl chops a man for a couple of weeks with hints, threats, manipulations, crying and something else, and then he suddenly “made it” himself and you think that a man is in love. No.
If we are talking about the signs of falling in love, then it is about his independent activity in relation to you, your relationship, etc. Try to remember that it is the man himself who asks, what he persuades, what he wants from you.
The third sign – it’s a joy when the woman arrives, the counter shows the activity, etc.
A truly in love man is not just himself active. He is extremely happy when a woman shows a counter activity.
For example, a man says something, the woman smiled and praised him. Whatever they say does not necessarily mean that a man will be delighted at the praise or smile of a woman who does not like him. Maybe he will think that, of course, she praised me, because I’m a hero or even “she was bored with her smiles and praise.” This is not so rare as it seems.
A man in love is sincerely glad if a beloved woman called, glad if she smiled, I’m glad if she came or accepted his invitation.
Once again I repeat that it is not at all obvious that a man will be happy to smile at a woman, a compliment or the fact that she herself called, etc., if a woman does not like him. It happens that a woman overestimates the usual politeness of men, unwillingness to do painfully with a refusal, too lazy to change something in a relationship, etc.
But if a man is in love, then he really is happy. Smile is wide, emotions are bright, etc.
The fourth sign of a man in love is the rapid passage of the stages of the relationship.
Let me remind you that the relationship between a man and a woman goes through certain stages.
If approximately, it is:
– the first meeting,
– Occasional meetings,
– Constant meetings and monogamy,
– Marriage registration,
– children, etc.
Normally, a man goes through these stages from the first date to registration of marriage in about 1 year.
Really loving men also try to quickly pass the stages of relations. At a minimum, they do not lag behind the standard. That is, in a couple of weeks, the relationship goes to the stage of periodic meetings, in a month – to the stage of permanent meetings and in 2-3 months – to live together. (If there is where to live, of course, if not, then he runs around and thinks where to live.) He tries to either rent a house, or buy a mortgage, etc.)
If a woman says that she wants a marriage (men rarely guess by themselves), then the man does not shy away from marriage, does not delay the wedding, even if everything is complicated with money.
And by itself, on the contrary. If he is not in love, then the passage through the stages is delayed or even hangs at some one stage. For example, leaves a girl at the stage of periodic meetings for sex, although the relationship has been several months. Perhaps, hangup at the stage of permanent meetings or even cohabitation, when together for 2-3 years, but about marriage, everything is said as “maybe possible”.
The speed of passing the stages of a relationship is a good sign for understanding that a man is truly in love with you. Again, I repeat that this man must himself pull the relationship and be the initiator of the transition from one stage of relations to another. If a woman pulls a man on a lasso, even if he does not strongly rest, it can talk about his infantilism, dependence on the girl or something else, but not about falling in love.
If you go through the stages of the relationship longer than usual, then something is wrong, most likely, either with the love of a man or you are not a man to the end of the liking, and you are delaying the advancement in stages.
Fifth sign, he does not fall in love with any woman.
If you have the wrong stereotypes of behavior, then almost 100% that you are not in love.
Not any woman a man can truly love, or at least it’s not so simple.
And I’m not talking about looks. (although about the appearance, too, do not need to forget)
I have already written, and more than once, that a man does not fall in love with women who too do not meet the criteria of interest of the hunter. Briefly recall what kind of behavior in women.
The first type is those women who are too easy to achieve. (it’s not so much about sex, how much about attention, admiration) And it does not matter, it’s about first dating or a few years of living together.
Typically, this is due to too low self-esteem in a woman. A man in their life takes too much attention. Men with such women quickly become uninteresting and fall in love, respectively, is really very difficult.
Such women begin to constantly demand something from a man. That attention, then money, then return love. And it does not matter in what form it happens. In the form of a very aggressive demand, compassionate crying or the constant manifestation of love.
Here, for example, a woman and a man meet. A man asks a woman: “How are you?”. A woman responds to him with something like: “I dreamed all evening about how we’ll meet, how we’ll spend time together, how we’ll go somewhere and we’ll be there … and then … And how are you doing.” Or even: “Why did not you call then? I told you that this will not work with me, etc.)
The man answers the question “How are you?” “Good.”
What is an example? If you look closely at the dialogue, then the woman is clearly ahead of the emotions of the man. He asked a formal question and very formally replied to a woman on the counter question. Clearly in this situation, the man has already got attention from the woman, and the woman – no, and will be forced either to sharply slow down with the development of relations or even to accept that they are not. (Or to shake a man out of a feeling that, by definition, does not work.) You can only shake out some kind of behavior, but rather rejection of some kind of behavior)
Women who fall in love rarely demand something, at least initially, in addition to being respected. They have many interests, except for men, etc. This, I repeat, does not mean that they are indifferent to him, do not want to meet with him, are not in love with him. Because if so, then he is also not interested, as below.
So, if you’re fixated on a man, then it’s unlikely that he’s really in love, and even if he was in love, then most likely he will stop loving. (or you need to quickly change the behavior)
The second type of women, in which it is difficult to fall in love, are those that are almost impossible to achieve. (I recall that it is mainly about attention, not sex)
This is the opposite of the first option. Such a woman, due to unsuccessful experience, the experience of parents or someone else close, formed the notion that men are not very good friends or even goats. Or maybe a woman thinks that he should, and should, and should achieve it, and she will look at it from a height.
Therefore, it requires an unattainable ideal of behavior from a man who, of course, does not exist. Let him achieve her and so and so, and the woman will look at him for a month, and then think about meeting him or not.
It is clear that to fall in love with a woman who reacts aggressively to often ordinary male courtship (moderately skillful and gallant, but at the same time when he is interested and not rude), who often expects some muck from men and is afraid of them or waiting for the impossible from a man, etc., it can be very difficult.
(There are times when he simply does not reach a woman and then the fact that he does not get a smile, attention, etc. to his courtship is normal, it’s just that his self-esteem can be overstated. man faces internal aggression)
At some point a man bothers to get a woman, and if he does not go away, then the love just goes away. (If you meet, then laugh at his jokes, kiss in if he did something good for you, etc.) The saddest thing that happens when he falls out of love and begins to break. And only then the woman realizes that she likes the man (or even falls in love) and starts running after him. But to run after a man who has already stopped loving – it’s sad.
The conclusion is simple. If he even likes you a little (and since you agree to meet second and next time, then this is so), then encourage his activity within reasonable limits.
So, above, we looked at 5 signs of a really in love man. Of course, they are many times bigger. But I tried to pick up for you exactly those, when using which it is difficult to make mistakes and which are quite reliable.
If there is a man next to you, then drive him along these grounds and you are more likely to understand whether he is in love or not.
First, the love of a man develops longer than a woman. (usually) So try not to overestimate the requirements for a man on your first date. Falling in love with a man usually only begins to develop.
Secondly, understand that everything changes and sometimes quickly. Yesterday he paid no attention to you, and tomorrow he is in love or vice versa. So do not think that a man has fallen in love or does not like it and that’s forever.